During the lowest period in my life with OCD, there was another person that helped me more than she ever probably realizes. I remember a specific phone call in which a friend experienced me in a very raw moment of that intense battle. I immediately felt shame as I realized I had been exposed to someone I considered a friend. Yet, the desperation was greater than the fear of being shamed. However, Danna never shamed me. She didn’t act appalled or disgusted. She, in a very calming way, helped me navigate the terror I was experiencing. While I do not care to go into the details of the situation, it was a matter of confronting the driving force behind the many years of my struggle with OCD. The tool she gave me is something I use to this day. She said, “John, you need to remember that it is your mental illness talking. Whenever you have those thoughts, look at the evidence of what it is you are afraid of and remind yourself those are not your thoughts. They are the thoughts of mental illness.” This was very similar advice that I had also received from Paul Fitzgerald when he said, “You need to pretend that you have a tumor in your head and your tumor is talking to you.” Paul’s descriptive way of giving the same advice created a word picture I cannot get out of my mind.
A self awareness I have had in the last six months of my life is that I can easily be triggered emotionally when I feel like I encounter a lie. Whether the lie comes from myself, from someone else, or an institution; I can easily be triggered into feelings of anger and it can come quickly. The reason I am so easily triggered when I encounter a particular lie is that my whole life has been a WAR fought against lies from my own mind. The war of OCD and the lies behind it has created some battle wounds. I have won some battles and some skirmishes I have been nearly destroyed in. The lies that OCD brings to the forefront of my mind have been embedded into my emotional DNA. I know the pain that a lie can bring. This is why truth matters to me. Anger is a secondary emotion which is God-given. We typical move into states of anger as we experience hurt, frustration, or fear. So, the learning curve is to step back from the anger and deal with the cause of that anger.
For me, lies represent hurt, frustration,or fear. Like pain, anger can facilitate moments of much need healing if we will lean into it and allow the Risen Christ to step into that anger. Yes, I said it. I know to some this sounds like sacrilege and if so, I am sorry. I am of the belief the Risen Christ desires to step into our ANGER because when He does, He will begin to nurture us in ways that will bring healing to the hurt, fear, and frustration. Perfect love drives out fear. Jesus has perfect love. Actually, that is not good enough. Jesus Christ IS perfect love. His presence in the midst of the anger is enough to diffuse the anger IF we give Him permission to be there. If we cast guilt and shame upon ourselves for experiencing those feelings of anger, we will run the risk of keeping the Risen Christ out of that space. The lie many Christians have come to believe is that anger is in itself, sinful. The emotion of anger is not the sin. It is how we respond when we are in states of anger that can be sinful.
This may be why I appreciate the discipline of Christian apologetics. In today’s world, Christian apologetics is almost like a four letter word to some in the church. Because the discipline has been abused, I can understand why some see it as such. Yet, in my lowest points, when I have almost thrown away my faith for the temptation to believe it was all a hoax, it has been the evidential reality of the Risen Christ that has kept me hanging on. Yes, sometimes only by a thread. However, if the work of men like Greg Koukl, Gary Habermas, Josh McDowell, William Lane Craig, Ravi Zacharias, and others had not influenced me and my thinking about the truth claims of Christianity, I would have easily walked away from it all just thinking Christianity was simply a fairytale for adults who want to live moral lives. You see, in the low points of almost throwing away the faith, I have never known how to dismiss Jesus Christ and the evidential truth surrounding the truth claims about Him. Then, God has always brought someone into my life to BE Jesus Christ to me. There have been about four or five times in my life where this pattern has happened in the dark night of the soul.
Truth matters. Lies always bring pain. Anytime a person or an institution lives in a lie and fails to confront the lie with brutal honesty and then replace it with truth, that person or institution will encounter dis-ease and pain. It is a principle that just works not because I fancy that it will, but because it is a principle that is proven over and over again in the history of mankind. Someone can speak truth without love, yet it is hard to conceive that someone who loves will fail to speak truth. When love and truth converge on the mind and heart like ocean waves, lies get washed away. Love and truth are grounded in the character of God and it is in this space we have the greatest chance of experiencing the fullness of the Risen Christ.
The challenge for all of us is to learn to be self-aware of those lies we live with and when we begin to believe those lies remind ourselves this is not from Father. Sometimes our lies become like a cute pet. Knowingly or unknowingly, we nuture and feed the lie(s). We take it on walks, ask it to come sleep with us on our bed, and we wake up with it. The biggest lie of all is the lie that tells you that for XYZ reason you are out of the reach of the embrace of the Risen Christ. The heart of Father is understood in the revelation of Christ. Today, if you are caught in this lie, consider praying one prayer and one simple prayer alone that Brennan Manning has taught many to pray, “Abba, I belong to you.” That’s it. Replace the lie with that prayer today. Practice self-awareness so that you can recognize when you are being lied to, whether it is your tape or a lie spoken from someone else. Breath in as you say the word “Abba” and breath out as you say the words, “I belong to you.” Let this truth sink deep into the fabric of your soul. Let it sink so deep that your identity gets wrapped up in Abba. Not in your brokenness. Not in your job. Not in the opinion of others. May your primary identity be wrapped up in Abba. You belong. You belong to Him; not to the lies.